During an episode of the show, “Ted Lasso,” Ted expresses anger towards his mother for not working on herself. When we are upset with others, who really needs to do the work? And what does this involve? How can we free ourselves of the pain we experience by the actions or inactions of others?
Read MoreI saw a post recently on Facebook that stirred up a lot of thoughts within me as well as facilitating some great conversations with my children.
Want to know what the post said? Do you want to hear my thoughts? Check it out…
When we see someone experiencing an emotion like anger, fear, or sadness, we often want to change the behaviour right away. Without even realizing it we want them to change their behaviours so we can feel better. How do we feel when someone tries to change our behaviour with words like, it’s not that bad, don’t be ridiculous, stop crying, put away your tears, you should just be grateful, it could be worse, let me tell you how I had it worse than you…” Yet why is it we often say these things to people or children who are upset?
Do you wish to discover a more loving and effective way to UNDERSTAND and address challenging behaviours in others? Be sure to read this article to discover this and more…
Read MoreI recently felt inspired to write another blog after seeing several posts on social media that felt very divisive. They were posted by peaceful, loving individuals. This got me thinking about how often humans say and do things that perhaps unknowingly, contribute to conflict in our world.
Do you do this?…
One of the things we do every year at the school where I teach is host "Character Education Assemblies." One of the character traits we need to teach students about Honesty. I have noticed how easy it is for adults to tell kids to be honest and always answer truthfully yet how difficult this can be at times for us as adults to do in our day to day lives.
"Do you want to go out with me? Is it ok if I borrow your car? Do you think this looks good? Do you like what I did? Is that ok with you? Are you ok to watch my kids? I need to borrow some money, is that ok? How are you feeling?"
Read my blog to find out what may be blocking you from being fully honest with others...
Last year I went to a workshop on parenting teens. The night left me pondering a lot of things about parenting, especially challenges with teenagers.
Do you find yourself in a constant battle with your child? teen? Are you seeking ways to find peace within your home? Are you wanting a greater connection with your child, no matter their age?
Do you want to stop having the need to control your kids?
Check out what I discovered after attending a parenting workshop and how it may help you as well...
Often we hear people making painful assumptions about what the other party is thinking. A colleague, friend and Mediator, Lori has witnessed the effects of painful assumptions far too often. After much discussion on the topic, Lori and I published an interview where we go deeper into how people can become more aware of their own thoughts.
During the interview, Lori and I discuss assumptions and how to break free of them. The topic of making assumptions also led us to discuss several topics around mindfulness. One subject we discussed was ways to ease your mind when you are making painful assumptions and how this will result in your relationships improving.
Read more on how you can ease your anxious mind and deepen your relationships.
Read MoreSomedays I find it challenging to interact with children in a calm peaceful way because I have been so well trained to focus on controlling their behaviour or fixing what appears to be wrong with them.
I have found that as I surrender my agenda to control children's behaviour or to fix them, the need for "behaviour managment" strategies disappears.
Now that is such a freeing feeling! Trying to control children's behaviour is so exhausting.
No threats? no rewards? no stickers? How is that possible?
Because I discovered this instead...
