I saw a post recently on Facebook that stirred up a lot of thoughts within me as well as facilitating some great conversations with my children.
Want to know what the post said? Do you want to hear my thoughts? Check it out…
When we see someone experiencing an emotion like anger, fear, or sadness, we often want to change the behaviour right away. Without even realizing it we want them to change their behaviours so we can feel better. How do we feel when someone tries to change our behaviour with words like, it’s not that bad, don’t be ridiculous, stop crying, put away your tears, you should just be grateful, it could be worse, let me tell you how I had it worse than you…” Yet why is it we often say these things to people or children who are upset?
Do you wish to discover a more loving and effective way to UNDERSTAND and address challenging behaviours in others? Be sure to read this article to discover this and more…
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Who knew egg decorating could remind me of the powerful strategies I have learned to stop the self-sabotaging voice and how to embrace the learning that comes from uncomfortable moments.
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Humans keep finding ways to create “war”. The topics in which we create wars keep changing or in some cases, resurfacing over time like sexual orientation or equality amongst races. Is it the topics that are war creating or our need for others to agree with us and do what we think is right that is most deadly?
What is the latest topic we are using that is creating separation?
What has this human phenomenon have to do with parenting wars as well?
Are you tired of dealing with your child’s challenging behaviours? Have you tried things like rewards, sticker charts, and even punishments for unwanted behaviour? Do you find the things you are trying draining and wonder why eventually they stop working?
Are you seeking ways to be a better parent?
Then be sure to read this blog and check out my website regarding upcoming parenting workshops.
As a mother of four children, I have had my share of dealing with meltdowns at various ages.
In this blog, I share several of my strategies that clearly DID NOT work and what motivated me to seek skills and understanding that would assist me in being more compassionate and effective in dealing with undesirable behaviour.
Even though I use the example of homework as a possible trigger for a meltdown in this blog, I offer perspectives and strategies that are helpful no matter the age of your child or what the triggering event might be.
Ready to deal with temper tantrums and meltdowns more effectively?
Need ideas for resolving conflicts between children?
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As the world is beginning to experience a global pandemic, many parents are wondering what they should or should not be doing around the physical, psychological and emotional care of their children. The big question on many parents’ minds is:
How Do You Parent Your Child During a Pandemic?
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Last year I went to a workshop on parenting teens. The night left me pondering a lot of things about parenting, especially challenges with teenagers.
Do you find yourself in a constant battle with your child? teen? Are you seeking ways to find peace within your home? Are you wanting a greater connection with your child, no matter their age?
Do you want to stop having the need to control your kids?
Check out what I discovered after attending a parenting workshop and how it may help you as well...
I remember when I used to get very angry over the sight of a messy bedroom. After seeing my kid's messy bedroom I would give out lectures starting with "How many times do I have to tell everyone around here that it is not my job to pick up your dirty clothes off your bedroom floor... " as I was picking up dirty clothes off the floor.
Many things my children did or did not do would result in me yelling.
One day I woke up to realize I didn't have to yell. Yelling was a choice and I was going to do everything I could, for my sake, and more importantly for my family's sake, to stop yelling.
Be sure to read my latest blog to find out what I discovered about my upset and one strategy I still use to break my "autopilot cycle" of yelling...
Recently, while my teenage daughter and I were at her high school, we overheard a mom yelling into her cell phone about assignments not handed in.
When our children are not doing what we want, it can feel so painful. As a mom, I have done my share of yelling at my kids in an attempt to get them to do what I think is best.
Is yelling at our teens really that effective? Maybe in the short term, it creates some desired changes but over the long term, it can leave our teens more frustrated, more destructive and damage our relationships with them.
What can we do instead?